It can be especially difficult to seeone’s ex happier with someone else. And there are plenty of waysboth healthy or unhealthyto react to this.The song prompted at least one editor here to posit the question of whether or not Ray J was still stuck in the middle of the five stages of grief (“‘I Hit It First’ is classic bargaining, right?'”). “Stages of grief is really wrong,” explainsSusan J. Elliott, the author of Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That’s Ever Happened To You . “Its more like phases. Phases, you go in and out of.” Susan would know. She’s a best-selling author and New York City-based grief counselor with decades of experience, and someone who has experienced the painful loss of a loved one. When read the lyrics of Ray J’s single, she laughed (“That’s pretty good!”) before noting: “Hes obviously angry at something, and I can tell you as someone who was deeply in love with someone who died, thats the angriest youll ever be in your life.” That anger official site might be the culmination of a decade’s worth of, ahem, interesting behavior from Ray J following the release of the tape.
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